The Happy Homemaker

It was a rough day. Jon missed his Papa so much and asked for him most of the day. Other than that Jon cried in that most annoying noise that reminds me of a scene from the movie Dumb and Dumber! I had to rush to the library because our books were due. We got Jon’s favorite comic books and Victoria’s favorite “Puppy Mudge” books. Victoria loves to read books about pets like puppies and super hamsters. I also got her books on gymnastics and ice skating because she can’t decide which sport she wants to pursue. I am completely supportive of any sport she chooses because I believe it keeps kids out of trouble when they get older. In Advanced Gymnastics, they practice up to 20 hours a week. She won’t have time to date or have much of a social life. I will only put her in gymnastics if she loves it. I will not force her to do something she hates. I spent hours every week reading books. I loved to read books about places all over the world. Sometimes I would spend 6 hours a day practicing Chinese writing. If I wasn’t studying language, I was reading about Medieval history. I am now 30 and still spend hours a week practicing Russian and reading Medieval History. I have decided to combine the two passions and get a Masters in Eastern European History.

Right now my main focus is my mastery of housekeeping and child rearing. I don’t think I have even the elementary skills! This calling of motherhood is my greatest challenge yet! One lesson I have learned so far is that it is not important to have a perfect home. Your children will not remember I perfect home or how you kept yourself at a size 2. They only care that you spend time with them and give them the attention and love they so desire. That is a lesson I had to learn the hard way. I am still an average mom of toddlers and a novice at raising a school aged girl but I make it because I learned at least that one lesson. Another lesson I learned that though “me” time is important, self-obsession will only lead you to be a disaster of a mother. It is better to spend time doing what your children love. If you do, then they will miraculously give you the time you need for yourself. You spend hours reading their favorite book, or running in the park, they will play quietly or go to bed on time. It is amazing how that little rule works. Other advice that I am received from Baby magazines or friends never work. Those two rules have always worked. I think they work well with relationships as well.

Well, my son is giving me a look as if he is being neglected. I think it is time to follow my second rule and give that little boy some attention before he goes off to college and gets married to a girl from Tahiti or something.